Bros Give Advice for First Timers

I asked a bunch of men, friends and otherwise, to share with me the most important piece of information they wish they had known before having sex for the first time. Here’s what they said:

-The vaginal opening is a lot closer to the anus than you think. Most guys think it’s right up front, like their dicks, but that isn’t the case

-Your expectations probably won’t be met the first time – it’s rarely “magical”

-Try to be in a relationship because it’s easier to say if you’re uncomfortable with something

-If you don’t stimulate her before deep penetration, you’re going to have a bad time

-Foreplay and making out makes sex feel better and last longer – don’t just “stick it in”

-Even if your first time is with someone you’re close to (mine was with a gf at the time) the fact that no one knows what they’re doing just makes it an awkward experience. You can visualize and plan it all you want but there’s no way to imagine that

-Foreplay can matter for the guys too, and girls CAN climax so much that it becomes painful

-It’s never perfect – don’t put pressure on yourself, just have fun and enjoy the ride

-The definition of sex is broader than just penetration, so don’t put so much pressure on that one act

-Try to communicate more with your partners from the start, take everything slow, ask them what they like and be open to criticism

-Take the time to make it meaningful and don’t rush

-Don’t rush it. Make sure you’re ready. It’s OK not to be “in love” but just make sure it’s really what you want

-It really does matter who it’s with and not just something to get over and done with

-Girls are sometimes more worried about themselves than what they think of the guy

-I wish I’d known how to get a girl to have sex with me

-Wear a condom

 

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